Friday, March 4, 2016

moments of melancholy...

I think people don't give themselves or the ones they love enough credit. Yes, someone you care about may not always think or act as you would like them to... but people aren't perfect... and (IMO) perfection is not the answer. Love is. It's OK to 'agree to disagree'. 

Life is full of storms. Having someone who will hold you during those storms is more important than having them understand your fear. Only you can understand your fear. As long as your fear is respected, then all is well. 

I think too many expect perfection and when they don't get it, start analyzing everything... (with disastrous results).

Love is not perfect. It's respecting each other's fears and imperfections as well as remembering all the things  that attracted you in the first place - things that make you want to be a better person. 

Trust is hard. But once given (if earned over time) trust isn't easily lost. But like everything else in life, it's a choice... one you make over and over again on a daily basis.

I'm not sure where all this is coming from - except that I read this quote recently:

and I'm very susceptible to some quotes. Many just fly right over my head, but some... stick and stick hard. Many of my life's philosophies are built around them. And this particular one may mean nothing to you, but it set off a storm of thoughts through mine.  And I have to write it out... because it clears my head. Someone once said:

and this is so true (for me anyway)!

Life isn't easy, but (IMO) it can be wonderful... if you let it. There are 'miracle moments'. You know there are.  Something else that runs through my head most days is:

" The world is so full of wonderful things. 
You'd think that we'd all be as happy as kings... "

(Don't know where that came from, but it's always with me?)

However, on occasion, we're our own worst enemies... either thinking we'll never get it right or having unreasonable expectations for ourselves or others. Let it go!  Be careful in picking your battles. Some things truly aren't worth the fight.

And lastly another favorite quote:
"Beyond the gloom of this world lies joy...
Take joy!"

I do.

Hope I didn't bore you.  Have a great weekend! (and remember... the storm will pass!)


  1. Great post, and actually quite timely (the quote) for me. Hugs if you need them, and purrs from the boys. Peace.

    1. Thanks, Kim. I can always use hugs! And hugs and purrs back to you also...

  2. I did not know you had another blog and I am pleased I came. I’ll copy some of your quotes. I like the first one about storms. My husband has Alzheimer and I am the only one taking care of him – it’s not easy, so I get several “storms” on a daily basis, but as the quote says the storm will pass (he won’t remember) so I better calm myself. I try to find small joys in little things everyday (very often to avoid crying) and it works. I did write about “joie de vivre” in my last post because we all can find some in our lives.

    1. Vagabonde, I tried several times to reply to your comment on my laptop... and each time it said something like "can't find servor" (or something like that). Anyway, I'm going to try again here on my desktop. My mom had Alzheimer's. She passed in 2008 at 94. But she lived with us for 15 years. Yes, it can be very difficult. I hope you can continue to find joy in the little things everyday. And I did read your post about "joie de vivre". It is important. And loved your old postcards! I have a postcard I treasure that was written in 1914 from my grandfather to my dad (when he was 7 living in London, England). Granpa Regan was Captain of a gunboat on the Persian Gulf at the time.

  3. I was curious to find out who Timber Hawkeye is. I was not surprised to learn that he is a Buddhist. Just saw that he wrote a book called “Buddhist Boot Camp.” It has 5 stars on Amazon. He also has a blog. I’ll bookmark it and go back to it when I have more time. I don’t know if you know of it, here is the link:

    1. I will definitely check out this blog. Thanks!

  4. Not boring at all! I'm always a teeny bit envious of those who have found someone to see them through the storms of life. But then I realize, while I may not have a partner, I do have my children and other family members, and a group of wonderful friends.

    Take care!

    1. Eileen, it's the ones that you love and love you that matter...


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